The ability to feel is a superpower. Many of us live in cultures that have no connection to how to grieve. So we numb. We move on. But all the feelings live on unaddressed inside our body and psyche reeking havoc.
I have been on my own journey of deep healing and grief after deaths, divorce, changing careers and life on this planet at this cruitial time.
A woman I greatly admire named Hiro Boga wrote this: (Under her beautiful writing about the current emotional climate you will find an invitation to a pop up event that begins in October for those who are grieving or wish to understand their grief beyond the surface experience of loss.)
"Collective trauma brings to the surface personal traumas — those past experiences of wounding, shock and suffering that continue to live in our bodies and psyches.Unhealed trauma makes it acutely painful, and therefore difficult, to be present. And presence provides the power to take consistent action on behalf of your most profound vision and values.
Trauma jangles your neurocircuitry. When your fight-flight-freeze response is activated by the hiss and swirl of events over which you have little or no control, it can feel as though you're swimming as hard as you can against powerfully swift, lethal currents whose only objective is to destroy you. Feelings are heightened, or numbed. All your efforts to move forward are soaked in low-level dread, in the terror of swimming towards the unknown, which might hold death, or ongoing suffering.
Take the time to make peace between the you that longs to be on the other side of this river, on the far side of the thing you want to create, or the change you want to bring about; and the you that is terrified of what will happen to you along the way, or when you get there. There is no shortcut to this. Listen patiently, deeply, to every part of yourself. Listen to the you that carries an archeology of trauma whose layers sift back, not just into your own story, but through your ancestral line or through the history of our species.
Introduce these frightened inner selves to the you that is adventurous, generative, in love with your soul's vision and propelled to act by the desire to be an agent of creative wholeness, love, and joyful service. Keep listening and talking with every part of you. Gather all of your inner selves and hold them in conversation with each other, too. Awareness and understanding are the foundations of presence. Do the inner work of dissolving the layers of trauma. Replace the patterns they have etched in your body with ones that your soul holds for your perfect unfolding, at this particular stage of your life. Lay a foundation of strength and presence, on which you can build those structures that will bring your vision to life. Focused, purposeful, effective action emerges naturally from the ground of presence. It's an organic sequence.
This is an invitation to understand and experience grief as an ally.
Society of Wild Hearts presents: Experience 01. Grief as an Ally
Join me for a 5-week journey during the month of October where we will seek to understand grief as an alley in the journey of the soul.
Together in a weekly virtual immersion, we will meet each initiation of grief, death, rebirth, and how myth can guide us in and out of these massive transitions as humans.
One of my heroines writes, "The atmosphere is electric with unprocessed feelings, our own and those within the collective. Our becoming emerges through the resonance and dissonance we experience in each other’s presence. We may be more easily ourselves in solitude, but we grow through our we-ness, through the synergies that emerge between us."
Come get lighter and join us for 5 weeks of deep contemplation and soulful uplifting in the first heart collective vitual experience. You will leave with alchemical practices, practical spiritual tools, a safe space to work in the shadowy realms of grief, repressed trauma, pain, death, endings AND community, guidance, and support.
Week 01 : Candle Light Vigil
Take a deeper look at death, endings, grief and what the soul understands about how darkness is actually un-alchemized light.
Week 02 : How the Body Understands Grief
Go inside the body and feel on a cellular level what grief and trauma look like when they are free to move and be felt and on the other hand what happens when we live in a perpetual state of denial about grief.
Week 03 : The Story Tellers
How myth can guide us into a deeper experience of grief. We will tell our personal stories of grief through a series of prompts and overlays with mythic stories we all know and love.
Week 04 : Lay It To Rest
A ritual ceremony of dying, death, and endings.
Week 05 : Reborn into the Light
Alivness is the gift of grief. Grief is how we show we have loved.
Tuition of $555 which can be paid in full or in weekly payments includes:
- weekly live 90 minute zoom gatherings (range in time between 90 minutes and 2 hours) and are full fledge experiences that ask something of you but always give back much more in return.
- guide book to this experience
- grief buddies
- email reminder prompts + virtual support
Schedule & Recordings
October has 5 full weeks of which we will meet weekly.
Gathering 1 will be on Friday October 1st at 7 pm EST
Gathering 2 - 5 will be Sundays at 1 pm EST
All live events will be recorded and placed on a private member only portal where you can view 24/7 forever.